Questions for Life from Dan in Real Life

10. I think family should be involved only if they have the person's best interest at hear, and only if the person doesn't have a very good handle on dating. If someone has a terrible streak of romances, the family should encourage them to take a step back from dating and take a break for a little while. If the person is feeling lonely and is too shy to date or is struggling to meet new people the family could support them and suggest someone nice they know. However, if the person handles dating very well or simply isn't interested in romance, the family should never get involved in that person's dating life.

7. You can only know you love someone if you're willing to sacrifice for that person. If you're willing to do so, and you care about them, then you probably do love them. Therefore, you can know you love someone in three days, if you can apply such things to your feelings towards that person.

12. Illicit love isn't truly more appealing to us, because we all want love that we can actually have, and a person we can actually be with. We romanticize illicit love, and think of the danger from it as more exciting, and that is how it appears in movies and books. However, to experience it in real life, is a very unhappy thing, as the two people can't be together and are caused pain from such things.

30. I am a terrible bowler.  I enjoy it, but I'm not very good at it. I have anxiety dreams about sending a bowling ball into the ceiling, or nailing an innocent lane manager with a bowling ball.  That wouldn't happen and is pure exaggeration, but I really am not good at bowling at all.

13. Well-traveled people like Marie are often more interesting than people who don't travel, but not always. People who are well traveled, usually have vibrant, open-minded, and curious personalities that lead them to travel, and that makes them great company. Also, people who are well-traveled have experienced a variety of cultural experiences they can talk about, and more international friendships to detail. Overall, I want to be well-traveled too so I'll have stories about my travels and experiences to share.

8. Since Marie wants a book that “pulls her in” I would recommend a good mystery by Agatha Christie, or “The Secret Life of Bees” by Sue Monk Kid, or “Dead Witch Walking” by Kim Harrison, as any of these have deep meanings to their plots, and are very easy to place yourself into as another character.

4. Dan certainly has a “do as I say, not as I do” mentality towards raising his kids, and this is completely unfair. You should never ask someone to do something you wouldn’t do yourself as a principle, and you should always teach by example, as kids learn this way very well.

14. I think you can have more than one soulmate, but only one at a time. You only need one wonderful partner in your life, but there are so many wonderful people out there capable of that role, that you can decide your own soulmate is the person you’ve come to love. There are many people out there you are capable of loving, it is only the matter of finding that person, and naming them as your soulmate.